Have you ever felt your heart throbbing in your chest at first sight of her? Captivated by her exquisite beauty that you were speechless? You dreamed of her that night and wanted to see her again. She left you with such a first impression to make you feel this way.
The first impression is the one that controls whether there is rapport. If the first impression isn’t good, would you want to see the person again? No one wants to be around people they dislike. And it’s so important because you can’t change someone’s mind after that first impression sets in. Even if you aren’t able to make a sweeping impression, you can present yourself well and work toward “wowing” her later.
Since you want to impress her right away, you have to remember you are building trust and proving how fun you are during the first impression. Your friends and family already know how great and fun you are, but she does not. When you go out on a date, keep your energy up, remembering that she doesn’t know you yet. Let events roll off your back, going with the flow, easing into conversation and injecting some humour to take the edge off both of you.
By being easy going, you help her judgment of you during the first impression by helping her relax and just have a good time. You can immediately disarm her built up walls by being funny. Humour also overshadows any flaws you think you show and makes her feel more comfortable with you.
Now giving a first great impression does take some work. It won’t come naturally. You have to prepare in advance. This includes having a well-groomed appearance for wherever you are making the first impression. Dress according to the location for the date. Check the latest styles and buy something new if needed to dress up-to-date to make a good first impression. You want her to think you are attractive.
When you’re on the date, mind how you eat, speak and look at others walking by. If you’re checking out other women during the first impression, you can bet she won’t return your phone call the next time you want to go out. Keep your focus on her and creating that great impression. When you speak, take command of your voice, projecting it out but not too loud. You want her to hear you, especially if you’re sitting close to a live band.
Whether you’re on a date or around a group of people, look for opportunities to make conversation with her. Pay attention to what she’s doing, what’s going on around her, her impression of the setting. Then strike up conversation with her based on the location or something she’s reading. This is the most natural way to approach someone, no pick up lines needed.
Even if you make a bad first impression, move on. Not everyone has success with everyone they meet. Keep focusing on what you need to do and try with another lady. She could be the one.
